It probably comes as no surprise to you, if you are reading this, that you have a substance abuse problem. Hey man, no worries, so do I. If you are new, welcome home. It was probably pretty difficult for you to finally concede to the fact that maybe, just mayyyybe, your drug and alcohol use got a little out of control. If you are anything like me, I thought I was a completely normal person, I mean sure, I drank every day and shot dope and smoked crack, but when my mom and my friends stopped talking to me, I thought they were being completely irrational.
I obviously never took into consideration that normal people… probably don’t “party” the way that I did. Normal people don’t really worry about driving home drunk every night or spending their whole paycheck the day they got it.
I remember the day that I admitted I had a substance abuse problem like it was yesterday, while on the other hand, it took me two years and five relapses to actually Accept that I was an alcoholic/addict.
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Substance Abuse – Knowing vs. Believing
For those of us who come into the rooms of a 12 step fellowship, chances are we probably never thought we would end up here. For the first few however many days or weeks, while we are aware that we got out of hand, we really might not believe that we are like these other people in the rooms. We try our best to compare ourselves and pull apart every word the speaker is saying, trying to distance ourselves from the fact that on a base level, we are actually the same.
The value of admitting we have a problem is simply that it gets us through the doors. The value in accepting our disease is what allows us to stay.
The definition of Admitting is to “confess to be true or to be the case, typically with reluctance.” This means that despite our best efforts to prove to ourselves and everyone else otherwise, we suffer from addiction, and nothing else has worked to get us to stay sober.
On the other hand, once we finally admit that we suffer from addiction, we can go through many phases of thinking that will try to again convince us that we have it under control or that it is not as severe as never being able to use again. This is often what leads many people into relapses, and can keep a person out for a long time.
However, when the day finally comes for the person to be totally and completely enveloped by their addiction, with no way out and no other option, they will probably be at the accepting point.
The definition for acceptance is to ”believe or come to recognize (an opinion, explanation, etc.) as valid or correct.”
For those of us who are beaten into submission and live to tell the tale, we are the lucky ones. Once we have really truly come to terms with that fact that we are completely powerless over our addiction, we are able to actually do something about it. We can get involved in a 12 step program, or a spiritual way of life. AA and it’s sister fellowships have been around since 1935, and have been the only real proof that alcoholics and addicts can and do recover from the seemingly hopeless state of mind and body that pervades addicts and alcoholics.
While this was definitely not ever the lifestyle choice that I had seen myself ending up in when I was a kid, I am here to say that the day I finally Admitted and Accepted my disease was the day my whole life changed for the better.
I learned that by admitting that I had a substance abuse problem, I was able to get help. They say that addicts will never get help or admit defeat until they are absolutely at the bottom of the barrel. No amount of tear-filled pleadings or rage fueled arguments from parents will ever be enough. We can make thousands of promises, and set the best intentions to get sober on our own, but the real addicts and alcoholics will come to the admittance that they have a problem that no human power can solve.
I am one of those chronic relapsers in recovery, in other words, I had admitted I had a problem, sure, but I never really conceded to the fact that I could not control it on my own. A.K.A., I never accepted my fate as an alcoholic. It took me almost two years to finally accept that fact that I would never be able to safely drink or drug, and as I kept falling off the wagon despite my best attempts to drink normally, I got a little glimpse every time into just how unmanageable I really was.
On my last run, I would be sitting at bars, telling strangers about how I was an alcoholic and shouldn’t be drinking, but that AA was a cult and I didn’t need them to help me (as I was probably slurring my words so badly that they couldn’t understand me anyway). I knew I had a problem, I knew that I was an alcoholic, but one morning I woke up in bed so hungover I couldn’t stand and had no recollection of why I was covered in throw up or how I drove myself home the night before. That day I came to terms and accepted the fact that my addiction was out of control, and every previous attempt I made to try and control and maintain my drinking was to no avail. I admitted and accepted complete defeat.
I made the decision to jump head first into the program, and I haven’t looked back. Over a year later, my life is like nothing I ever would have imagined. Drinking and drugging aren’t even options for me anymore, and I am surrounded by wonderful friends and a spiritual solution to any emotional and social dilemmas I face. I know it all sounds rather cheesy, but admitting we have a problem is what opens the door, and accepting the solution of recovery is what allows us to stay.
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